

When the eldest son, William, went out with Lilly Gertrude, she was not horribly adamant against her. The main problem that Gertrude has with Miriam is her worth and her family status. Because of these conflicts, Paul made Miriam suffer. After William’s death, Paul became his mother’s chief emotional outlet, thus Miriam becomes subject to similar trials as Lilly.

He knew she did not completely approve of her. He felt the need to belittle her constantly in comparison to his mother. Whenever William brought his lover, Lilly, around his mother, it pained him. This tension is similar to the tension that caused William to die. When Paul compared his two loves, it caused great tension between the two, he would begin to hate Miriam. Paul’s relationship with his mother was very dominating. “You make me feel spiritual and I don’t want to be spiritual.” (190) Eventually, Miriam introduces Paul to Clara to hopefully fulfill these needs. Paul has other needs that Miriam could never fulfill. Lawrence showed this sometimes with depictions of flowers.
